Unfortunately, it’s not just what you say, but how you say it and how it’s perceived that give your words negative meaning. Discussing an event that has to do with someone who isn’t present, no matter how innocuous, can come off as gossip, and will almost always come back to bite you. You’ll also come off as judgmental when discussing a person who isn’t present to defend themselves. Make it a habit to spread good information and notions about people when they’re not around, so your words can’t possibly be twisted by others. You should also avoid complaining or making excuses, and take accountability for your actions. When you place blame on others for your shortcomings, you detract from your integrity and make yourself appear untrustworthy. Even when you mess up, being truthful to yourself and others is the only way you’ll be able to grow, and the only way others will commend you for such growth.
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